“However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself,
and the wife must respect her husband.” Ephesians 5:33
Well, with Valentine’s Day coming up this week, I wanted to talk to you briefly about our relationship with our spouses.
Marriage is an incredible blessing from God which allows for a man and woman to live out a life together here on this wonderful planet. Sometimes we miss the blessings of marriage due to the turmoil which is sometimes caused by 2 sinners with independent wills trying to live harmoniously under the same roof. To any of you who are presently married, you understand exacly what I’m talking about.
Pastors often preach about the woman depicted in Proverbs 31 as what a wife should be. Godly, faithful, diligent, virtuous—she’s the entire package. Now, I don’t know about you, but I’ve never heard a sermon on what the husband of that woman must’ve been like. And I could stand to learn a few things from him—and probably some of you could too.
Look closely at Proverbs 31. The character and accomplishments of the wife imply many things about the husband standing silently in the background. He must’ve granted her a great deal of latitude to make important decisions about the home and the family budget. Furthermore, he must’ve encouraged and respected her—two ingredients crucial to her operation of the thriving business discussed in the Proverb. Now for us husbands, those 2 ingredients are sometimes fleeting in our relationship with our wife. Ok well, maybe most of the time.
If a wife is to be free to succeed in her multifaceted role, the husband must hear, respect, and support her. Otherwise, her gifts will be blocked, and she won’t be the woman God called her to be.
Husbands and wives complement one another’s weaknesses. Each of us are gifted in different ways by the Lord to be a helpmate to the other. It’s ultimately God’s way of blessing each of you! The only things Proverbs 31 does say about the husband is that he’s respected at the city gate, and that he rises to call his wife blessed. Honestly guys, when is the last time you called your wife “blessed”?
“Coming together is a beginning, keeping together is progress, working together is success”– Henry Ford (1863-1947)