“But Jesus said, Suffer the little children, and forbid them not, to come unto me: for to such belongs the kingdom of heaven.” Matthew 19:14
Having just concluded a week filled with kids from Vacation Bible School I was looking over some old files dealing with parenting and found the following information which might give some insights into parenting.
Here’s a list adapted from the book Lists to Live By by Alice Gray, Steve Stephens, and John Van Diest.
1. Pay more attention to your marriage–or yourself, if you’re a single parent–than you do to the children. Your marriage, if strong and satisfying will give your children a sense of security. Don’t allow your children to run your household.
2. Expect your children to obey. Don’t apologize for the decisions you make in their lives; you are in charge of the family, not the kids.
3. Nurture your children’s responsibility within this structure. Allow them to make choices, and let them know they must expect and accept the resulting outcomes. Allowing your children to fail can be one of the hardest things to do as a parent.
4. Say No and say it firmly. If the response is a tantrum, so be it. The real world doesn’t bend to temper tantrums, prepare your child to learn to accept “no” as an answer. Simply tell them to go to their room until they can control their behavior.
5. Where toys are concerned, less is more. Having too many options inhibits a child’s ability to make creative decisions. Some of the old time toys like wood blocks and play dough can really help their creativity.
6. Turn off the tube. Children need to develop competency skills and social skills, neither of which occur by sitting passively in front of the TV.
7. Don’t be intimidated by the experts. Listen to as much advice as you can and use suggestions and ideas that make sense to you, but raise your children your way.