Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.
1 Corinthians 13:7
One of the responsibilities when you are a pastor is having the opportunity to counsel couples who are preparing for marriage. And when I talk with them, I always give them what I believe is the biblical definition of love: two givers trying to out-give one another.
That’s because if we enter marriage thinking about what we’re going to get out of it, we’re never going to be satisfied. But if we see our marriage as an opportunity to give instead of get, our love for one another will grow and we’ll find deep and lasting satisfaction in our relationship with our spouse.
Love is giving yourself daily to another person in your life. It’s not some cheap, shallow emotion or feel-good moments of warm fuzzies. The love described in the Bible is fervent, forgiving, and forever-enduring. That kind of love never fails.
So where do we find a pattern for that kind of love? By looking at Jesus. Jesus didn’t die for us because of some momentary sentiment. Jesus died because He loved us all the way to death.
Love others – your spouse, first and foremost – with that kind of love. This also applies to us within the church of Jesus Christ. We need to stop looking for ways “the church” can serve us, and start looking for ways to serve the church by serving one another.
Focus on giving instead of getting and you’ll find true joy in all of your relationships!
EXPERIENCE TRUE JOY IN ALL YOUR RELATIONSHIPS THROUGH LOVING OTHERS
BY GIVING INSTEAD OF GETTING.